Abikaasa jättis depressiooniga võitlevale naisele peeglile südamliku kirja

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Imguri kasutaja Mollywho laadis Imgurisse üles liigutava foto: tema abikaasa oli jätnud peeglile nimekirja põhjustest, miks ta teda armastab.

Molly kirjutab, et pärast oma mehega abiellumist on ta korduvalt pidanud depressioonikoletisega silmitsi seisma. «Minuga pole just olnud kerge läbi saada,» kirjutab ta. «Kui aus olla, siis vahepeal on mul kogu lootus kadunud ning ma olen elanud oma frustratsiooni abikaasa peal välja. Aga mingil põhjusel andestab ta mulle iga kord.»

Ta oli just saabunud pikalt reisilt ning vajunud üliemotsionaalsena voodisse. «Siis vaatasin ma vasakule ning nägin, et peeglile on kirjutatud need sõnad.»

Mees kirjutas üles põhjused, miks ta armastab oma naist.

1. Ta on mu parim sõber.
2. Ta ei anna iial alla.
3. Ta annab mulle aega, et ma saaks oma hullude projektidega tegeleda.
4. Ta ajab mind iga päev naerma.
5. Ta on imeilus.
6. Ta aktsepteerib, et ma olen natuke hull.
7. Ta on lahkeim inimene, keda ma tean.
8. Tal on imeilus lauluhääl.
9. Ta on käinud minuga stripiklubis.
10. Ta on läbi elanud tõelise tragöödia, aga on siiski inimkonna suhtes kõige optimistlikum inimene, keda ma tean.
11. Ta on mind mu karjäärivalikutes alati täielikult toetanud.
12. Ta paneb mind tahtma teha tema jaoks rohkem, kui ma kunagi varem kellegi jaoks olen tahtnud teha.
13. Ta on teinud oma karjääri arendamisel suurepärast tööd.
14. Väikesed loomad ajavad teda nutma.
15. Ta norsatab, kui ta naerab.

Molly lisas, et tegemist on omamoodi armuvandega. «Samas ei ütle ma, et haigust saab ravida ilusate sõnadega peeglil,» tõstatas ta ka olulise teema vaimse tervise kohta. «Selleks on vaja professionaalide abi, armastust, empaatiat, vahel ka medikamente. Paljud inimesed võitlevad vaimsete häiretega, ilmselt rohkem, kui me arugi saame. Selle asemel, et nende suhtes viha või kurjusega käituda, tasub neile näidata armastust ja hoolimis. Kõik vajavad teinekord väheke abi.»

The list says: 1. she is my best friend2. she never quits on herself or me3. she gives me time to work on my crazy projects4. she makes me laugh, everyday5. she is gorgeous6. she accepts the crazy person i am7. she&#039;s the kindest person i know8. she&#039;s got a beautiful singing voice9. she&#039;s gone to a strip club with me10. she has experienced severe tragedy yet is the most optimistic person about humanity i know11. she has been fully supportive about my career choices and followed me each time12. without realizing it, she makes me want to do more for her than i have ever wanted to do for anyone13. she&#039;s done an amazing job at advancing her career path14. small animals make her cry15. she snorts when she laughs<a class="imgur-image" data-hash="lCYGGb8" href="//imgur.com/lCYGGb8.jpg">http://imgur.com/lCYGGb8</a>I&#039;ve been juggling a LOT lately. Trying to do well at work. Just got married. Couldn&#039;t afford a wedding. Family is sparse. Falling out with friends, yaddadyadda. But, the thing is, amidst all the struggle, my husband has relentlessly tried to cheer me up. I&#039;ve not been the easiest person to deal with. In fact, sometimes I&#039;ve lost all hope and even taken my frustration out on my new husband. But he somehow forgives me every time. I have a long journey ahead of me, and I know he probably realizes I&#039;m depressed. But he holds my hand, and he tries his best. Today when I came home from a trip to SF, I flopped onto my bed in tears. I looked to my left, and saw these words painted all across my mirror. I think he wanted me to remember how much he loves me. Because he knows how quickly I forget. He knows I struggle to see good in the world, and especially the good in myself. But here it is. A testament and gesture of his love. Damn, I needed it today...I&#039;m not saying mental illness is cured by nice words on a mirror. In fact, it takes professional care, love, empathy, sometimes even medication just to cope. Many people struggle with it mental illness - more than we probably even realize. And instead of showing them hate or anger when they act out. Show them kindness and remind them things can and WILL get better. Everyone needs a little help sometimes. If that person can&#039;t be you - see if you have any resources for therapy.EDIT: The thing is... I am not &quot;too good&quot; or &quot;not good enough&quot; for my husband. We all have our down days. And sometimes we don&#039;t handle it well. BUT, we are partners. He is here for me when I&#039;m down. And I cherish that. And he has his down days, too. And I will be there to hold his hand, just like he holds mine. Life can be hard. The answer is never to mock, scoff, or belittle someone. Be kind. Be the best version of yourself. And be most of all- be patient.I&#039;m still struggling, but I&#039;m glad I have my other half to help me make it through. It may just be a few words on my mirror, but I&#039;ll look at them when I wake up and know I&#039;m not alone. I&#039;ll know I have my bestfriend, my co-pilot in life to help guide me through.